I don't want to be an abusive parent, a screamer, a hitter, or medicate my kids from the time they can sit on a toilet, like Grimma did

The Abuse Jun 17, 2019

Aunt Brie questions who she is outside of her mother's controlling hand. Knows that she wants to raise her children differently.

"I don't want to be an abusive parent. I don’t want to be a screamer, or a hitter. I don’t want Cleo to have an eating disorder, or a complex, or be medicated from the time she can pee in an adult toilet."

Here is an excerpt of Brie's blog from June 17, 2019:

15-Year-Olds Don’t Care About My Issues

June 17, 2019

"Anyway, the reason why I think that there is something wrong with my kid, and my parenting, and my entire being is because my own fucking mother will not reassure me that I’m doing ok, I’m ok in who I am as a person, I’m normal, I’m not an outlier, I’m not dark with shame, I’m not a firebrand, the way I was born does not prevent me from being a successful, kind, and loved person, etc. I don’t know what her deal is, but I do know that being a parent is the hardest fucking thing in the entire world, not just because of the sleeplessness, or the physicality, or the boredom, or the pain, but because it forces you to confront yourself, and either change, or become an abusive fucking parent. And you have someone else’s life in your hands, and it’s no fucking joke, and you can’t fuck up because it all means something. Unlike all of the writing jobs I’ve done in the art world.

And I don’t want to be an abusive parent. I don’t want to be a screamer, or a hitter. I don’t want Cleo to have an eating disorder, or a complex, or be medicated from the time she can pee in an adult toilet. But I honestly do not have the tools at my disposal to figure out how to be a “good” parent. My mother is not there for the lesson. She’s playing tennis. I’m an amateur, and I don’t have a lot of time or energy to learn, and I’m scared. I don’t know who to consult, or what to read, or what the right thing is."


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Brienne Walsh

Brienne Walsh is a writer and art critic. She is sister to Tara Walsh and the daughter of Stephen Walsh and Brendan Walsh. Her blog ABrieGrowsInBrooklyn.com documents her life and family history.

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